How to Get Over Any Girl in Just 3 Days

In this article I will talk about how to get over any girl in three days or less based on principles of psychology.

The model that I will use to describe how to get over someone is Kubler Ross‘s five stages of grief.

When getting over someone it’s important to realize that speed of the process is all about how you quickly you pass through the five stages of grief.

As you know, almost all relationships come to an end.

This is why it’s important know how to get over someone psychologically so you can move on to the next relationship and enjoy it fully.

The five stages of grief are:

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

I’m going to describe the five stages.

Denial

At the end of any relationship we tend to feel that the relationship is over. But first we are in a sense of shock and can’t believe what is actually happening.

This is called denial.

When we were in a state of denial, we don’t see reality clearly.

In denial the subconscious mind has not accepted the fact of the relationship is over, in fact the subconscious mind hasn’t even processed the fact that the relationship is over. It still feels like the relationship is going on.

Even at the conscious level it hasn’t sunk in yet that relationship is over.

For a few hours or maybe even a day it’s completely normal to feel a sense of denial about the relationship being over.

If you feel angry it means you’re moving out of the stage of denial because you’re realizing that this relationship is over.

Anger

In the anger stage you may feel feelings of resentment or hatred towards the situation and the girl you’re getting over.

There’s also a lot of blame that goes on in the stage. In the anger stage you may blame yourself and blame your looks or finances, and you may blame the fact you’re not an adequate man.

You may also blame the girl.

It is normal to feel angry for a few hours or even a few days after the end of a relationship.

This anger maybe directed towards yourself, it may be directed towards other people, or towards circumstances, and anything your anger can latch on to.

Eventually the anger will subside as you get used to the relationship being over.

Some people let go of the anger so quickly they won’t even notice they were angry.

After the anger stage is the longest stage of the process of getting over the girl.

Bargaining

The bargaining stage is the worst stage of all and it’s the hardest stage to pass through.

In fact it can take years to pass through the stage.

In my case I was passing through the stage with a specific person that I couldn’t get over for 6 years.

I knew what to do, but sometimes it’s hard to go through the process of the bargaining stage, because even though you know how to pass through it, you may not want to.

This is why it’s such a tricky stage

to pass-through.

In the bargaining stage you’re thinking about ways to restore the relationship and get the girl back.

And the thing is as long as you have hope that you can get the girl back, you will have a lot of problems in the bargaining stage.

In the bargaining stage you may be thinking thoughts like:

What can I do to bring this girl back in my life?

Maybe with more money or better looks I can win her back.

There must be something I can do to make her love me again.

I’m sure you get the idea.

So the thing that keeps a man in the bargaining stage for so long is the thought that it’s possible restore the relationship.

It’s this piece of wisdom that I’m going to tell you that will make the difference between getting over a girl in three days, or three years.

This piece of wisdom is,

The sooner you relinquish all hope of the relationship being possible, the sooner you move past the bargaining stage, and the sooner you’ll get over her.

But here’s the thing,

You have to you have to 100% believe that the relationship will never happen again.

If you have even a 1% belief that the relationship will happen again, that means you’re still in the bargaining stage. It is here your mind will try and think of ways to restore the relationship.

Keep in mind,

If you harbour any thoughts of bargaining or hope of the relationship coming back, you will not pass the bargaining stage.

You have to make yourself 100% certain that the relationship is over.

That’s the only way your subconscious mind will move on.

But Angus?

Is it a depressing to give up hope on a relationship that you really want?

Yes it is,

That’s why you will pass through the fourth stage after you are done bargaining; this stage is called,

Depression

In the depression stage you will feel miserable because you know that the relationship is over but you still haven’t fully accepted that it’s over.

But here’s the important thing to do during the depression.

Do not resist depression.

Typically, the depression stage will last for three days, maybe a week at the most.

Anytime you go through loss in life or give up hope on something, you’re going to feel depressed.

This is normal,

The important thing to keep in mind during the depression is avoid going back to the bargaining stage because you’re resisting the depression.

You must not harbour thoughts of bargaining while you are going through the depression. Otherwise you will revert back.

After three days, when your subconscious mind has processed everything, you

will reach a state of acceptance and peace about the situation.

Acceptance

This is the fifth and final stage.

Once you’ve reached the stage of acceptance it means you’ve moved on.

It’s here where you’ll be able look at your past relationship, and the girl, and see that they were just a regular person.

You should be able to see your ex as nothing more than a stranger going forward.

And you will know you’ve reached the stage of acceptance when you no longer care.

The Principle of Least Interest

The beauty of knowing how to get over someone in any relationship is that it won’t matter how the relationship goes.

You can enjoy then relationship without being attached.

This means you’ll have control over the relationship, just like in a negotiation the party willing to walk away is more likely to control the negotiation.

In relationships this is called the principle of least interest.

The person who’s least interested in the relationship has the most control over it.

Knowing how to get over someone is a very powerful tool for your relationship.

This knowledge gives you the freedom to enjoy relationships without being attached to them.

So to recap, the five stages are,

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

How fast you go through them is entirely up to you.

With what you just learned,

You’ll be able to get it over any relationship in three days just like magic.

This teaching will give you all the freedom you need for relationships, and you wont feel attached or sacrifice yourself to keep the relationship going.

The ability to walk away and get over her gives you more freedom to enjoy the relationship than you could possibly imagine.

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

Realizations From Solipsism

For a while I had the gut feeling that I was the only real mind in the universe and that everything was contained within my mind as a projection.

I think reality is a hallucination and that everything is actually an illusion. Your thoughts, feelings, objects, sense experience are all temporary – the only thing that doesn’t change is change itself.

If you are aware of anything – you are in a fiction, because only the blank canvas of pure nothingness is real – yet it’s the only thing that’s impossible to imagine because the imagination is always imagining something.

Back to the point about me being the only real mind, I think I might be wrong to say that even my own mind is real. This is because my mind is a projection animated on the blank canvas of nothingness.

Every thought is a projection.

Every thought is a hallucination.

My awareness and the idea of my own awareness is a hallucination and conceptualization.

There is nothing that exists outside of my awareness. If I’m not aware of it it doesn’t exist. There is also nothing that exists inside my awareness because my awareness is something, my awareness is an illusion – and nothingness is the only thing that is real.

The only reason why people say reality is not an illusion is because there is nothing to compare and contrast it with.

The universe is 99.999999 percent empty space – even the empty space isn’t real – even time isn’t real – these are illusions that pass through the very thing that is real, pure nothingness.

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

10 Reasons Every Man Should Play a Sport

Camaraderie

I owe most of my friendships with other men to Ball Hockey.

It’s also fair to say that Ball Hockey is the foundation of my friendships with my buddies.

When you play together, win together and lose together as well as learn and grow together you become brothers on and off the floor.

I’m thankful I have about 10 friends I can call brothers, and most of them come from Ball Hockey.

Fitness

Ball hockey is why my cardio is so good and part of why I’m so motivated to improve my strength!

The main reason I’m in the gym is so I can improve at my sport and accomplish my task – which is to help my team win games.

Hockey gets me in shape, and motivates me to continue to improve my fitness.

Mental Toughness

Mental toughness is all about bouncing back from adversity when the going gets tough.

The reason sports develops mental toughness is because there are times in games where your team is losing and you have every reason to be frustrated and every reason to give up.

But you can’t give up and you have to keep going.

I’ve had countless times where I’ve lost games and countless times where I’ve been losing in games and I’ve had to bounce back and keep playing with effort anyway.

In this respect sports prepares you for life because life is going to knock you down and it’s up to you to get back up again and keep moving forward.

If it wasn’t for my dedication to hockey even after getting cut from teams and bouncing back, and helping my team when when the going gets tough, I would not be prepared for the demands of life as a man.

Resilience

Resilience is a product of mental toughness.

The more mental toughness you have the more likely you are to bounce back from adversity.

In my life I faced tremendous amounts of adversity, for example;

I’ve battled bipolar disorder and if not for ball hockey and what ball hockey taught me about resilience and bouncing back from adversity, I would not have had the wisdom and strength I needed to bounce back from adversity and be resilient in the face of mental illness.

And in hockey when we have given up a few goals, and my team has been frustrated and felt like slowing down, I knew that the important thing was to keep moving forward and be resilient!

Present Moment Focus

To be successful in life you have to stay in the present moment.

There is no better example of staying in the present moment, than when I play sports and especially ball hockey.

The reason sports demands you to stay in the present moment, is because if you don’t stay in the present moment you’ll get slaughtered by the opposition.

As a hockey player if I’m dwelling on the past or worrying about the future it will affect my performance.

This is a parallel to life, and in life to be happy and successful, you need to stay in the present moment.

I need to take be in the present moment to take care of business.

The problem is if you dwell on the negative of the past, or worry about the future, it will take you away from the present moment. As a result you will lose focus on what needs to be done.

In fact I would say mental toughness is your ability to stay in the present moment.

And sports is one of the best ways to develop presence.

Testosterone

Studies have shown that man who play sports, especially competitive sports – have higher levels of testosterone in their system.

Testosterone is very important for men, because without testosterone you don’t have as much willpower and strength.

The more testosterone you have, the more money you make, the more you’ll get laid, the better you’ll be your sport, and the better you’ll feel.

Any man who wants to be successful must have a high testosterone level. This is especially important as you get older because testosterone levels naturally decline with age.

This is another very important reason to play sports because playing hockey makes your testosterone levels a lot higher since sports bring out your competitive drive.

Competitive Drive

In order to be successful in life you have to compete with other people and other businesses and life is survival of the fittest.

I would like to say that you could be a bitch and be successful. But the reality is you can’t be successful without drive.

Part of the reason I have so much drive to succeed in life is because I’ve learned about competitive nature from ball hockey.

I started ball hockey in 2012, and I was the hardest working player in the whole league. I was not the most talented nor the smartest. However, I was the hardest working player every single game and it paid off, this is why I scored a championship winning goal in the league.

I simply wanted more, I would win every battle in front of the net, and I would out-will the opposition.

The reason I have so much drive today, is because I’ve worked hard in practice and in games with drive and dedication.

And I’m becoming better every year because of my drive and dedication.

And life demands the same drive.

Sports = Fun

To be successful in life you have to have fun doing what you’re doing.

I’m very successful in life because I only do what I find fun or valuable.

Every entrepreneur needs to know that in order to be successful you need to have passion, and I know I’m in the right sport because I have lots of passion for it – and I know that passion will never go away until I’m too old to play.

In life you need to have passion.

I’ve done other sports, and had a measure of success in other sports such as marksmanship and drill during my time in Army cadets.

I had success due to the passion that I had. I owe my passion to the skill that I have developed over many many years.

The thing about passion is, you need to develop confidence before you have passion. Once you have confidence (which comes from competence) you will love your sport more and more.

Life is the same way, because any undertaking requires passion to be successful.

Get in the habit of having fun.

Sports Teaches You Not to Take Shit

I have played enough hockey to realize, that if you take shit, you will lose.

You have to learn when to take shit, and when not to take it.

For example, you can’t take shit from the opposition, you can’t allow them to push you around.

However, you have to let things go sometimes.

For example, when referees are horrible, you have to learn how to let that go and move on – because just like in life, sometimes things are out of your control, such as how refs call the game.

But you do have control over how you stand up for yourself. This applies to both within your team and with your teammates, and in the game itself.

If you let the other team bully you into submission you are making a major life mistake.

However if you stand up to referees and their bullshit, you only make matters worse.

So sports teaches you how to stand up for yourself and when to stand up for yourself.

Sports Teaches The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction states the positive thought will lead to positive results.

The LOA also teachers, that negative beliefs lead to bad outcomes.

There is no greater example of how the LOA works then in sports.

When you think positively, it makes you feel better. When you feel better, you have more motivation, and you make better decisions.

You also have more energy, and when you have more energy, you will be more effective.

It’s also about having the right energy which is positive energy.

There are two ways to play a hockey game.

The first way to play is the play to win.

The second way to play, is to play not to lose.

This is the LOA in a nutshell.

When you play with the mindset of winning and kicking ass, it means you are thinking about the results of a positive outcome, and your energy will keep you positive and oriented to playing to the best of your ability.

You will be more levelheaded and determined when you were playing to win.

When you are playing avoid losing however, you will be retreating in games and you’ll avoid doing the things that make you successful. This is because this mindset makes you more afraid to take risks.

It’s important to realize that risks lead to reward.

Life is the same way,

When you were more willing to take risks, you are more likely to get a big rewards.

When you were afraid to take risks, you’re losing out on potential reward.

So stay positive!

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

A Few Quotes On the Afterlife by Angus Baynham-McColl

“If the mind can be awake while the body is asleep than surely the soul can be alive when the body is dead.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

“If going to sleep and dreaming is like a mini-death, then dying must be like a MEGA-DREAM!” – Angus Baynham-McColl

“In the afterlife we move into a reality that is just like a nighttime dream – except we aren’t half asleep in that dream, but rather we are fully awake.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

“After death we don’t forget everything we have ever remembered, but rather we remember everything that we have ever forgotten.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

“On the other side of death we know everyone fully – there are no strangers in the afterlife.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

“Just like we have to fall asleep at the end of every day, we also have to leave the afterlife and be reborn as another human being every so often. Life on earth is where we go when we are asleep in the afterlife and when we die in this life – we wake back up into the afterlife.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

“Life is a dream relative to the afterlife, and the afterlife is a dream relative to this life.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

Those are today’s thoughts on the afterlife,

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

The Number One Mistake People Make When Using the Law of Attraction

The number one mistake people make when using the Law of Attraction is being attached to the outcome during the manifesting process.

In other words people usually do just fine at desiring what they want, but they just can’t seem to let go and allow the universe to work it’s magic.

Desire is a powerful force, and unimpeded desire will always manifest the intended outcome.

But the problem for an amateur LOA practitioner is attachment.

Attachment will cancel out desire every single time.

I use other words for attachment such as resistance, desperation, neediness and wanting. Feeling lack is another term I use to describe attachment.

If you feel any resistance in your being within the context of your desire, you must let go of the negative feeling.

Every desire simultaneously creates an aversion to not having the desire, and if the aversion isn’t relinquished, the desire will not manifest easily.

This is why when I want to manifest something, I intend for it until I feel excited about it, and then I let go totally until I’m inspired to reinforce the intention again.

I let go of how long it will take to manifest my desire, and I especially let go of how it will happen. I also don’t try to “do anything” to make my desire real – if I’m doing uninspiring work because I think it will make my desire real, I immediately stop. It’s important to realize that any action coming from the voice of resistance, neediness, and lack is the wrong action to take.

If you are in a state of complete surrender, resistance, and non-attachment – it’s likely that your desire will manifest very easily and quickly.

There are zero limits as to “how” your desire can manifest.

In fact the most enlightened practitioners of the law of Attraction don’t focus on “manifesting desires” – life just happens to work out perfectly and miracles are a part of everyday life.

A rookie LOA practitioner will visualize, and visualize all the time, yet generate so little in terms of results.

This is because he is doubtful the universe understands what he wants – and his lack of faith will be reflected back to him by his lack of results which will reinforce his lack of faith.

But the LOA pro will spend most of his time letting go of his desire because he knows that the universe already “gets it” – he knows that the universe knows he wants a million dollars. The only thing the pro focuses on is a total surrender to the universe. He doesn’t visualize over and over or repeat affirmations. All he has is an inner knowing that his desire is real in the present moment. He just needs to become so open and non-attached that the universe can work with unlimited possibilities and put the pieces together.

Bottom line is,

The Law of Attraction is 1% intention and 99% letting go.

Most rookies have it the other way around.

And that’s why they are stuck.

I will have more posts on letting go and releasing resistance to become non-attached. Letting go is the most essential thing to do when applying the Law of Attraction.

Until next time,

The Man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

Is Life Real or Is Life A Dream?

A lot of philosophical people ask this question,

Are we in a real universe – or are we in a dream?

Let’s first examine the nature of the objective physical universe.

In my opinion the physical universe is a life form.

Before the Big Bang there was a singularity which I call “the seed.”

Over 13 billion years the universe became what it is today.

How?

Through evolution!

The seed exploded and hydrogen and helium were the first elements to form and hydrogen and helium formed stars.

Also due to natural laws such as gravity, planets began to form. And as elements collided to form other elements we eventually got bacteria and single cell life forms.

Then small fish, reptiles, and amphibians formed. At around the same time millions and millions of years ago birds came out of evolution.

Eventually the dinosaurs went extinct 65 million years ago and mammals came out of that extinction.

Later in the last million years or so people came into the equation.

And with people came consciousness!

It took 13.8 Billion years for the universe to spawn consciousness as a property within the universe.

But it’s at the point of right now, that the once unconscious, and very chaotic universe became orderly, and evolved enough to facilitate consciousness.

But now that evolution created consciousness we can validly ask ourselves,

Is life real or just a dream?

I’m going to say it’s both real and it’s a dream.

This is because there are 2 aspects to reality or shall I say 2 perspectives.

There is,

Objective Reality

Objective reality is the idea that you are a body in this reality and that you will die at the end of your life because consciousness is produced by the brain.

In OR the material world is real and the conscious world is secondary.

And,

Subjective Reality

In subjective reality you are consciousness and the world is produced within consciousness.

You are not the body in this reality, the body is a dream character that you experience life through, but in reality that body isn’t you.

You are consciousness and everything you experience arises within consciousness.

SR agrees with the idea that consciousness is primary and that the world is secondary.

OR proposes that consciousness is secondary.

But are we in a real permanent world with a temporary consciousness, or are we a permanent consciousness in a temporary dream world.

I say it’s both,

Objective and Subjective Reality can coexist.

The universe created consciousness because it created the lifeforms that could hold and express consciousness.

Through biology, consciousness is linked to the universe.

But it was physics and chemistry in the early stages of the universe that gave rise to complex structures that made biology possible.

In a dream we know that the whole dream universe is a mental projection.

But in the waking universe we can tell that the universe is physical and runs according to natural law.

In a dream what can happen is limitless, but in physical reality what can happen is limited. You can’t fly in real life.

When the biology that links us to physicality is shut off and we are asleep then we can dream up anything we want because the mind is unlimited in its possibility while in the form of a wave.

The physical universe is structured by particles on the other hand.

The brain is what links the mind (waves) to the particles (matter.)

There is a real world “out there” but the word is also “in here.”

From minds perspective the physical world is real, but from spirits perspective the world is just a dream.

MIND = WAVES

PHYSICAL UNIVERSE = PARTICLES

SPRIT = EMPTY SPACE & SILENCE

The universe exists in different layers,

First spirit,

Then mind,

Then Physicality

But I say first there was physicality which then evolved into mind and then spirit became aware.

“The universe is the process of infinity becoming aware and then awareness becoming infinity.” – Angus Baynham-McColl

They say God created the universe.

But I say the universe actually created God.

Then the universe became self aware when unconsciousness gave rise to consciousness.

And then consciousness took over and accelerated the evolutionary process.

Now we have humans who are living the dream of life and minding the reality.

Spirit lives the dream of mind.

Mind minds the reality of physicality.

“We live our dreams and mind our reality.”

Because we are in a real dream!

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

Does Consciousness Survive Death?

I think consciousness doesn’t survive death.

I also think consciousness survives death.

But am I contradicting myself.

No but I’m certainly not thinking logically, however I am thinking paralogically at a level where the paradox can be reconciled.

I want to support the theory that consciousness dies with the brain while also supporting the theory that consciousness is immortal.

This answer is the merge of science and spirituality.

And here it is,

We have 2 consciousnesses.

Consciousness 1 is produced by the brain and exists within the objective universe. Consciousness 1 will die when the brain does because the brain is responsible for producing consciousness 1.

Consciousness 1 is called the soma-stream, it’s the consciousness which gives rise to sense experience of the objective world.

Consciousness 2 is the soul-stream and this represents our imagination and subjective experience. Consciousness 2 survives death because it exists independent of the brain.

Your mind can be awake while your body is asleep – therefore your soul can be alive when your body is dead.

Until next time,

Angus Baynham-McColl

Donald Trump is King of The Law of Attraction

What is the Law of Attraction?

It’s the law that states,

“You become what you think.”

Donald Trump is a BADASS winner and grinner because he works according to the Law of Attraction.

He became a BILLIONAIRE!

And then he became PRESIDENT!

Trump is one powerful man.

And if the LOA is meant to serve one purpose it is this;

To help you get whatever the FUCK you want!

Trump is very good at getting applying the LOA and getting what he wants because he does the following 11 things extremely well and more.

Donald Trump,

• Believes in himself

• ALWAYS uses his word in his favour

• Generates ATTENTION

• Moves BOLDLY

• DECIDES to succeed

• Takes responsibility for his destiny

• Blames others when they deserve it, never blaming himself

• Doesn’t give a FUCK what other people think

• Uses ADVERSITY to its advantage

• Makes things work FOR him

• Accepts that what’s done is done, and moves only FORWARD

You see,

Trump is a very powerful reality creator because of the power of his intent – he doesn’t keep secrets about his intentions. He owns his intentions and pursues them selfishly, openly and without remorse.

He’s not a fucking coward.

He’s BOLD and he doesn’t give a fuck what people think.

The day you give a 0% shit what other people think is the day you are a free man.

That’s when you can start living a life on your terms.

Winning is easy,

And Donald Trump is the worlds number one Man for a reason!

He applies the Law of Attraction perfectly and flawlessly!

You should intend to do the same,

I know I am.

Until next time,

The Man,

Angus Baynham-McColl

3 Secrets For Great Writing

In this article I’m sharing 3 ways to make masterpieces for your readers.

Write For Just One Person

Think of one person you would love to have read your work.

And write for that person.

There’s someone out there who I would love to have read my work.

I write for this person even though she may not be reading it, but I know that my best work will come out because I’m fired up to write.

This is known as a muse for an artist, many artists have muses.

Muses are inspiring, and I want to take advantage of my muse by writing as if she’s the only person reading my work.

Write The Way You Speak

The reason I use dictation from my phone to write is because my writing will sound the way I speak.

Not to mention it’s faster.

It’s important have a writers voice because it will make your work easier to read.

Edit the Way You Wish You Spoke

I love writing because you can change your words as much as you want.

This allows you to sound the way you wish you spoke.

It’s important that you edit your work as much as possible so your work is top notch.

When your work reads the way you wish you spoke, that’s when you know you have a masterpiece.

Until next time,

Angus Baynham-McColl

My Number 1 Rule As a Writer

Most writers neglect this rule.

The rule is,

Trust Yourself

Many people are their own harshest critic.

This often comes from caring about what other people think.

But here’s the thing,

It’s none of your business what other people think of you.

And,

What people think shouldn’t matter to you.

The truth is, what other people think is a reflection of what they believe.

It’s not a reflection of reality.

For the longest time I struggled with what my readers think.

I thought my writing was trash.

But it wasn’t until I scored positive reviews that I relinquished my inner critic.

In fact,

I’ve had 1 person tell me my work was the best thing he has ever read on the Internet.

Some people would think they are hot shit after a comment like that, but not me.

I take applause with a grain of salt, because I know I still have much to learn about how to be a great writer.

However,

If someone says my writing is shit I’m able to let that go.

I can let it go because I’ve heard enough positive feedback to know that even my average writing is still good.

I’ve blogged for five years now.

And I’m only starting to get good.

In the last five years I’ve thrown out plenty of my work.

I’ve threw away my work because I thought it wasn’t good enough to publish.

I regret this.

I also believe what I’ve thrown out is the best work I have ever done.

The problem was I failed to believe in my work.

Now I trust myself, and I’m confident that even my average work is good enough.

I got my confidence as a writer when I wrote blog posts for the Ottawa Spartans.

For one season I was the teams blogger, and the players showed great appreciation for my work.

Three players even came up to me and said that “I’m an amazing writer”, and they “got fired up” when they read the pre game pump ups, they also loved the player biographies.

Back in 2013 when I first started blogging, someone said that my about me page was “the best thing I’ve ever read on the Internet.”

I look back on that compliment when I should trust myself more.

I still avoid judging my own work though.

You have to give your work up to the universe at some point.

I recommend editing and carefully revising before you publish.

However, you have to be able to trust yourself enough to publish.

In this blog I haven’t edited as much as normal because I need to trust myself more.

There comes a point in editing when you know your work is good enough.

Edit until that point, but don’t overthink.

When you’re happy with your work, publish it.

Like I said, you have to trust yourself.

Learn from feedback and constructive criticism but take compliments with a grain of salt.

Positive comments can make you complacent and blind to your own weaknesses. You may also lose the drive to improve after reading your own press.

The truth is you should always be trying to improve.

I find critical comments more valuable, but I don’t get very many and I wish I did sometimes.

I appreciate advice on how to improve from my readers, but possibly the reality is that I’m a good enough writer that people don’t think I need much advice.

But I know that even if I’m a good writer, I’m not Stephen King or J.K Rowling.

There’s always more I can do to improve.

You shouldn’t worry about what other people think.

I always go with what I think of myself at the end of the day, because I write for myself.

I don’t care if I have 10 followers or 1 million followers.

I write for myself.

I don’t want to be a slave to my reputation, my writing is done for the love of the art and my own enjoyment.

I know a lot of people like my work, and I know some will never care about it.

But who likes my work and who doesn’t is none of my business.

My only job is to make a work of art until I think it’s good enough.

After I have done that I must hit the publish button.

Afterwards I let the chips fall where they may.

I want to make $1 million as a blogger.

But I know I must not worry about what other people think, or I will never make $1 million a blogger.

Like I said, I write for one person only – myself.

This website is my journal.

I happen to publish my journal because I believe that my words can inspire other people. I also enjoy sharing insights that express my truth.

Once again, I encourage all writers to keep this one thing in mind,

Believe in yourself!

It took me five years of writing to reach this realization, but when I finally trusted myself, it was very liberating.

You will get to a point where you put your 10,000 hours in and have reached a level of proficiency in your work.

It’s at that point where you should trust yourself more and more, yet still listen to other people’s advice.

I did 30 posts in November, and I’ve already made 5 posts in December. I also plan to have 400 posts per year at minimum.

This means there will be plenty of great content to read for years to come on winning and grinning.

Thanks for reading!

Until next time,

The man,

Angus Baynham-McColl