At the age of 18 while I was completing grade 12 I lost hope and got depressed because I would have to work at a job and miss Ottawa Senators hockey games as a result of the job.
Naturally while I was thinking about this I became depressed because watching hockey was my number one passion.
This depression was a message from my subconscious mind that I had to find a job that would allow me to go to my hockey games.
This is because depression is the subconscious minds way of saying; “we have a problem, I will make you feel like shit until you solve the problem.”
Depression is caused when there is a loss of hope in the problem being solved.
Some people when they are depressed say they simply have to “think more positive” or “distract themselves.”
This is nonsense,
The only way to solve your depression is to solve the problem that caused the depression in the first place.
If you are depressed because of financial issues, you must solve your financial issues, depression is your minds way of telling you,
“Your finances suck, so I will make you depressed until you get more money.”
If you are depressed long enough and don’t solve the real problem, your subconscious mind will elevate you into a euphoric state periodically because it wants to escape from the depression.
A bipolar manic episode is the minds way of saying,
“I don’t believe you can get me out of this depression anymore, so I will make you escape from reality so I can feel very powerful and happy again.”
At this point your mind wants to make you feel important and powerful, so it will lie to you and tell you that “you are God or Jesus” and you may hallucinate and hear voices. You will also be overconfident in your abilities and lose touch with reality.
This is called psychosis.
Now the problem with most doctors is that they think medication is the answer to bipolar disorder.
The real answer is having insight into what your emotions are trying to tell you.
There are 6 human needs, and the real task is making sure they are all met. This is the only way to be happy.
The 6 needs are:
Let’s take a brief look at all 6 needs,
We need to feel safe and secure. We need certainty about our next meal and that we can still enjoy things that give us enjoyment. Some people need a billion dollars to feel certain, others just need to pray to God. Certainty will prevent fear from arising.
We need to do different things to avoid boredom. We need to watch different movies and read different things otherwise we get bored.
We need to feel like we matter, this is why many people who didn’t feel important as a child strive for fame or riches to compensate. Everyone needs to feel important. If this need is neglected in a persons younger years, they will try to compensate in adult years by becoming as important as they have always wanted to become.
We need to connect with other people in order to be happy. We need friends.
People who were rejects in their early years might strive for popularity in their later years. For instance I wasn’t the best at connecting with people as a young person, and now I love meeting new people. Like I said earlier, our adult selves are designed to fulfill our unmet needs from childhood.
We need to be growing in order to remain happy, this is because if we don’t grow we stagnate.
Growth means to pursue self-improvement.
The highest form of happiness comes from making other people happy. To make a positive contribution is to feel happy. This is why I perform generous acts such as writing this article.
If you don’t meet your 6 needs you won’t be as happy as possible.
If you are unhappy it’s for at least one of those 6 reasons.
If too many of your needs are unfulfilled your mind might make you depressed in order to get you to act.
Thanks for reading,