The Adlerian View on Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar Disorder,

At the age of 18 while I was completing grade 12 I lost hope and got depressed because I would have to work at a job and miss Ottawa Senators hockey games as a result of the job.

Naturally while I was thinking about this I became depressed because watching hockey was my number one passion.

This depression was a message from my subconscious mind that I had to find a job that would allow me to go to my hockey games.

This is because depression is the subconscious minds way of saying; “we have a problem, I will make you feel like shit until you solve the problem.”

Depression is caused when there is a loss of hope in the problem being solved.

Some people when they are depressed say they simply have to “think more positive” or “distract themselves.”

This is nonsense,

The only way to solve your depression is to solve the problem that caused the depression in the first place.

If you are depressed because of financial issues, you must solve your financial issues, depression is your minds way of telling you,

“Your finances suck, so I will make you depressed until you get more money.”

If you are depressed long enough and don’t solve the real problem, your subconscious mind will elevate you into a euphoric state periodically because it wants to escape from the depression.

A bipolar manic episode is the minds way of saying,

“I don’t believe you can get me out of this depression anymore, so I will make you escape from reality so I can feel very powerful and happy again.”

At this point your mind wants to make you feel important and powerful, so it will lie to you and tell you that “you are God or Jesus” and you may hallucinate and hear voices. You will also be overconfident in your abilities and lose touch with reality.

This is called psychosis.

Now the problem with most doctors is that they think medication is the answer to bipolar disorder.

However,

The real answer is having insight into what your emotions are trying to tell you.

There are 6 human needs, and the real task is making sure they are all met. This is the only way to be happy.

The 6 needs are:

Certainty

Variety

Importance

Human Connection

Growth

Contribution

Let’s take a brief look at all 6 needs,

Certainty

We need to feel safe and secure. We need certainty about our next meal and that we can still enjoy things that give us enjoyment. Some people need a billion dollars to feel certain, others just need to pray to God. Certainty will prevent fear from arising.

Variety

We need to do different things to avoid boredom. We need to watch different movies and read different things otherwise we get bored.

Importance

We need to feel like we matter, this is why many people who didn’t feel important as a child strive for fame or riches to compensate. Everyone needs to feel important. If this need is neglected in a persons younger years, they will try to compensate in adult years by becoming as important as they have always wanted to become.

Human Connection

We need to connect with other people in order to be happy. We need friends.

People who were rejects in their early years might strive for popularity in their later years. For instance I wasn’t the best at connecting with people as a young person, and now I love meeting new people. Like I said earlier, our adult selves are designed to fulfill our unmet needs from childhood.

Growth

We need to be growing in order to remain happy, this is because if we don’t grow we stagnate.

Growth means to pursue self-improvement.

Contribution

The highest form of happiness comes from making other people happy. To make a positive contribution is to feel happy. This is why I perform generous acts such as writing this article.

If you don’t meet your 6 needs you won’t be as happy as possible.

If you are unhappy it’s for at least one of those 6 reasons.

If too many of your needs are unfulfilled your mind might make you depressed in order to get you to act.

Thanks for reading,

Angus Baynham-McColl

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A Miserable Life is The Default – Happiness is an Uphill Endeavour

Your life is like a garden, you have to do real hard work to make the garden look great. If you don’t do any hard work it will look like shit.

If you don’t try to excel at life, you will have a shitty life because a shitty life is the default. I see so many people who are unhappy in my daily life, and they are miserable because miserable circumstances are the default.

Poverty is the default.

Bad health is the default.

Bad relationships are the default.

Feeling like shit is the default.

Why?

It’s simple,

Negatives are always seeking you out.

If you do nothing in life but relax, you will be fucking miserable.

On the other hand,

Positive circumstances must be sought after, you have to PURSUE and EARN happiness, while unhappiness is something you ATTRACT by doing nothing or too little.

If you want to be rich, it will not happen by luck or accident.

It takes relentless dedication to get rich. It also takes self-education, creating value, and being financially disciplined.

If you want good health you have to eat a good diet and exercise the right way consistently. Good health will not seek you out, bad health will though.

If you want good relationships you must put effort into them and give the other person what they want.

I can think of life as a professional sport, if you don’t have the motivation to play the game hard and play it the right way, losses will seek you out.

Success is an uphill battle, it’s not even terrain so if you don’t go uphill your fate is to go downhill.

Until next time,

Angus Baynham-McColl

How I Used Paradoxical Intention to Solve My Depression

2 years ago I was going through one of the worst depressions of my life, and at the beginning of my depression I resisted what was going on.

I tried everything possible to relieve my depression. For example I tried distraction, playing video games, trying to restore hope in my life, hanging out with friends, but none of that would work.

But here’s the problem,

DEPRESSION = RESISTANCE

This meant if I tried to overcome my depression, I would usually make it worse.

This is because,

“What you resist persists.”

So I did the opposite of fight my depression and told myself,

“I’m going to just be depressed.”

If I felt like doing nothing that day I would do nothing. And I actually went out of my way to do things I didn’t feel like doing with the intent of being more depressed!

But I didn’t become more depressed, no matter how hard I tried. In fact, my depression got much better when I did little things to try and make my depression worse.

It’s like following the law of non-resistance and embracing the negative was the very thing that restored me to normal!

The Secret to Business is Giving People What They Want

In business we make the mistake of trying to sell and make money.

This is pure stupidity.

What you must do is find out exactly what the marketplace wants and provide that.

Now what does everyone want?

Happiness!

We all want to be happy, therefore business is all about making other people happier because of your products and service.

Hat Trick Ball Hockey League, Tim Hortons, Apple, McDonald’s, Uber, and every other company that I spend money on gets my money because the company makes me happy. It’s that simple.

Most companies that are focused on “selling” have piss poor customer satisfaction rates because they aren’t focused on giving the customer a good experience.

Why?

Because those businesses don’t realize that business is about making other people happy.

Why do people get hired?

Because they give employers what they want and make them happy. It’s all about good service.

People get fired when the boss is no longer happy. It’s not about what you do, it’s about how your bosses and customers feel about what you do.

The bottom line is that the more you focus on making other people happy, the more prosperous you will become!

Metaphysics – Beyond The Physical into the Spiritual

The universe is governed by natural law, whether physical or spiritual. We are in an orderly universe. The universe was designed and created by a being that can be known as God or infinite intelligence. The father of creation is a being known as God and many other names. The laws of the universe are an extension of his being.

Meta means above, beyond and behind.

Metaphysical means beyond the physical realm and into the spiritual realm. The metaphysical and physical realm are not two separate realities but they are just different levels of the same reality.

Metaphysics is the branch of philosophy that examines the fundamental nature of all reality, including the relationship between mind and matter, appearance and substance, form and essence.

To call one a metaphysician in this traditional, philosophical sense indicates nothing more than his or her interest in attempting to discover the truth that underlies everything.

To examine the nature of physical reality, we must do so from a level above it. Einstein said that “we can never solve a problem in the same level of consciousness that created it.” We have to advance to a higher level of understanding to deal with a problem powerfully.

All things psychological have a spiritual basis behind them. Reality is ultimately the result of spiritual factors.

The Metaphysics was divided into three parts, now regarded as the traditional branches of Western metaphysics, called (1) ontology, (2) theology and (3) universal science. There were also some smaller, perhaps tangential matters: a philosophical lexicon, an attempt to define philosophy in general and several extracts from the Physics repeated verbatim.

Ontology is the study of existence.

Theology means the study of God or the gods and of questions about the divine.

Universal science is supposed to be the study of so-called first principles, which underlie all other inquiries; an example of such a principle is the law of non-contradiction: A = A, A not = B, Not both A and B. In other words, the elementary laws of logic as Aristotle knew them.

There is an absolute science to all things spiritual and it isn’t mysterious at all. It is only mysterious according to the level of awareness we have. The higher our level of awareness is, the more the mystery is resolved. – Mind Reality

Metaphysics is Mind Science, Universal Science and Spiritual Science.

Source: Enoch Tan – Author of Mind Reality

Philosophy – The Very First Subject Of The Mind

The term philosophy comes from the Greek word “Φιλοσοφία” (philo-sophia), which means “love of wisdom”.The Penguin Dictionary of Philosophy defines it as the study of “the most fundamental and general concepts and principles involved in thought, action, and reality“.

Thales believed that there was an underlying unified system that could explain all things. He believed that all things are comprised of an active or ‘alive’ core, that water was the medium common to everything, that things change to and from and into each other, in a rational system of repetitive cycles.

Thales relied on this idea of unified rational repetitive cycles to make the first exact prediction of the date of an eclipse. He also predicted the size of an olive crop harvest, benefiting personally by standing by with a large supply of wine presses to sell.

More importantly, though, Thales was the first to do both of these using observation and deduction only, without referencing an outside god, goddess, religious or scientific system.

Immanuel Kant wrote his Critique of Pure Reason (1781/1787) in an attempt to reconcile the conflicting approaches of rationalism and empiricism and establish a new groundwork for studying metaphysics.

What were once philosophical pursuits have evolved into the modern day fields of psychology, sociology, linguistics, and economics (among others).

Just like psychology (science of psyche) which has evolved into a field of its own from philosophy, metaphysics can also be considered a realm of study in its own class because it is the science of spirit.

Everything subject can be fundamentally considered as philosophy. We start primarily by thinking about something and contemplating on how it works and why it is so. This is how all science begins. We first have a concept or idea about something and then only later when the technology is developed can we deal with it in a more physically scientific way.

Even from the very early ages in history, the mind was talked about by Plato through his concept of the world of thoughts. Socrates emphasized the importance of the mind through his passionate discussions regarding reasoning and introspection.

Philosophy can be considered the very first subject of the mind.

Source: Enoch Tan – Author of Mind Reality

Neuroscience – Science Of the Physical Aspect of Mind

In order to understand the workings of the mind/ brain from a holistic and integrative point of view, we also need to look into the physiological and biological aspects of it.

Neuroscience is the term that incorporates all the related subjects that study the brain and the nervous system which is basically the extension of the brain’s communication network infrastructure. Neurology, neurosurgery, neuro-technology and other neuro-related subjects fall under the category of neuroscience.

Every function of the mind has it’s organic member (the brain) to carry it out. The mind is the spiritual aspect of consciousness while the brain is the physical reflection of the mind. Every time your mind thinks a thought, the co-responding neurons will fire in your brain and communicate that thought to your body which is the subconscious mind.

The better the condition of your brain, the better your mind can function in 3D reality. The same is true vice versa. The mind will affect the brain, and the brain will affect the mind. But it’s very important to know that the mind is superior to the brain. This is because the mind has the higher power of causality relative to the physical aspects of the self such as the brain. The 3D level of reality is always subject to the intents of the spiritual level of reality.

Every neurological disorder has its roots in psychological conditions. However the problem with psychiatry is that psychiatry is rooted in the false assumption that the brain rules over the mind and that a person’s mental state is subject to the conditions of the brain. The mind is superior to the brain and therefore all “chemical imbalances” are actually caused by a faulty state of mind, the chemical imbalances are not intrinsic to the brain.

When psychiatry looks to drugs as the solution, they are not looking at the root cause of the problem which is usually something psycho spiritual rather than something purely biological. Using medical drugs to suppress what your body is signaling to you via negative symptoms, is simply just a way of temporality masking the problems. The real problems will resurface once the patient builds tolerance to the drugs. And higher doses will be required to mask the symptoms.

The real reason why side effects occur in psychiatry (even severe ones) when a person takes psychiatric drugs is because the body is rejecting the chemicals while it is trying to bring to awareness of THE REAL PROBLEM in a person’s life that he needs to deal with that can’t be escaped by taking drugs. Medical drugs are an escape from the real problems that the patient is facing.

The worst case scenario is when a doctor sentences a patient to spend a lifetime of medication so they never get to face the real issue that must be dealt with in order to learn and grow from it.

The best way to deal with any situation is always holistically, and in the right order as well. When you work with a situation from a higher level like the psychological or spiritual level, it may be resolved long before even needing to proceed to the lower levels such as biological intervention.

Having the awareness of how the mind and brain affect one another from both sides is the power of holistic perspective. Always remember, the mind is above the brain because mind rules over matter.

Reference: Enoch Tan – Author Of Mind Reality

Note: This is not the original article, I have modified the article to add some important points in that I feel were important.